02 January 2013

No tea and crumpets for me please.

I'm scared, terrified even. After all that I've been through in my career as a soldier not once have I had a lingering fear like this one. It paralyzes me to the core.

I'm afraid of having a tea party.

I look at my newest (and hopefully last) offspring and the thought of trying to raise her is scary. I'm one of two boys and I work in an all male profession. I'm surprised that my wife tolerates me because I don't understand females at all.

So what do I do? I've never been to a tea party or played with Barbie. I don't know how to pick out an "ensemble" or "accessorize". How will she relate to me? My boys are tough and I don't coddle their feelings. How am I supposed to ensure that my lack of sympathy doesn't crush her emotions?

Fear of the unknown is the highest hurdle that anyone will every face in a new situation or environment. It is my duty as a parent to take that fear and let it motivate me because time won't sit still and she is going to grow up and become a woman. It is my dream that when that happens she will say "my father had a major part in me becoming who I am today". Like any other challenge set before, I will put my best foot forward. Will it be enough?



  1. If your little girl knows you love her and she knows you try for her... it will be enough! My Dad didn't do the tea parties or a bunch of girl things with me but he taught me compassion, love of the outdoors, love of animals and did so much with me...that he was and will always be my hero! Teach your daughter more than just the girl things and make time to do things with her and you will be paid back with her love a hundred fold!!!

  2. Thanks for the encouragement. With her being the first girl, I don't know what to expect.

  3. I've got two girls and believe me I wasn't ready for it either. That being said, I've gotten comfortable playing with them, it's a little give and take on both sides, lol. I'll have her tea and her cookies, and I can play with her stuffed animals. However, I can also race cars with her and rough house a little bit. Studies have even shown that it is good for girls to play rough sometimes. Good luck to you, I'm sure you'll be loving it in no time and be drinking tea like a pro.

  4. I'm sure you're right. My wife insist that I will absolutely love it. We shall see....Thanks for the read.

  5. Hi Theron,

    I have two daughters. Don't worry, your daughter will tell you all that you need to know about tea parties and any other games that she wants to play. All you have to do is be there -- ready to play.

    You have a mom and a wife, so you can't really believe that you know nothing about women. Your daughter will never expect you to be Mom. Just being dad will be enough for her. Also, daughters are not as fragile as you may think, so relax and enjoy the experience.

  6. The fear of the unknown is the biggest fear of them all. I know it will work out but I'm not sure of the journey. I guess that's the fun of it all.